International Lutheran Marriage Encounter

Post Weekend Resource Index

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DEFINITION OF RESOURCE INDEX TERMS

TYPE - categorization of resources
D - dialogue helps
DQ - dialogue questions
Invite - inviting materials
Talk - community talk as a post-weekend resource
TS - Talk Series - series of community talks to be given consecutively
W/E - Weekend - materials used during the presentation of the weekends
Misc - miscellaneous post-weekend resources not in other categories
TITLE - Name of resource
DESCRIPTION - including weekend concepts, if applicable
HOW - how is resource available - what media format is used
A - audio tape
D - computer disk (Acrobat Reader, IBM, Mac)
P - paper (only)
V - video
WHO - couples for whom the resource could be most effective
all
clergy
comm - community
family
leader - leadership (including presenters, community helpers, etc.)
PREP - a clue for what is given already in resource & what preparation is required
1 - outline only
2 - outline + a bit of help
3 - mostly written - personalize, etc.
4 - prepared - use as is
5 - other
TIME - length of time it takes to use resource
SCRIPT. REF. - if resource refers to specific passages of scripture
SOURCE - from whom the resource originated; includes (among others):
CTBF - Call to Be Family
PWR - Post Weekend Resource (year-resource number)
PER - Post Encounter Resource (number, month/year)
NO. - Resource file number

 

RESOURCE INDEX

TYPE TITLE DESCRIPTION WHO TIME PREP SCRIPT.REF. HOW SOURCE R#
D Suggestions for Family Dialogue family dialogue - how to; uses WEDS; also 54 quest. for starters family - - - P LME-011 110
D What is a Feeling? feelings - how to describe; feel vs. think all - - - P LME-012 112
DQ WEDS Manual 90 days of dialogue questions, with short reflections before each question; especially good for couples right off the weekend all 90day - - P Trickey WWME 151
D Handout for How to Dialogue dialogue technique; questions we ask each other when we dialogue all - - - P LME-010 108
D Intro. to Scripture Dialogue scripture dialogue basics, starter passages all - - John 13-17 P PWR 83-13 115
D Insights and Understanding of Conjugal Dialogue 19 page detailed teaching about the process of dialogue all - - - P - 101
D Dialogue Resource Materials dialogue techniques - successful; feelings - writing & describing; feeling words; questions after exchange all - - - P - 109
D How's Your Dialogue? Enhanced or Hindered? article; enhanced/hindered when... all - - - P CTBF 88 spr 102
W/E Feeling Words feeling words listed by: happy, eager, sad, hurt, angry, fearless, interested, doubtful, physical, affectionate, miscellaneous, afraid all - - - P LME-009 701
D Scripture Dialogue - Advent scripture dialogue; Advent suggestions for 4 weeks; scripture ref. & dialogue questions included all - - Matt.24,25;Luke 1,2; Gen.9 P PWR 84-4 117
D Dialogue for Life finding meaningful dialog q.; 7 day series to focus on an area of life together all - - - P Lathan 114
DQ Death topic: death & sickness all - - - P - 155
DQ Holiday topic: Easter all - - Luke23:44-46 P - 157
DQ Jealousy topic: jealousy all - - - P - 161
DQ Leisure topic: leisure time all - - - P - 162
DQ Spiritual topic: our relationship with God all - - Eph. 5:25-31 P - 164
DQ Listening topic: listening all - - - P - 163
DQ Peace topic: peace - inner, in relationships, / war all - - - P - 165
DQ Possessions topic: possessions all - - - P - 166
DQ Reaching Out topic: reaching out to others all - - Acts2,3; Eph.4; Luke9 P - 167
DQ Romance topic: romance all - - - P - 168
DQ Sex topic: sex & sexuality all - - S of Sol.7,1-11 P - 172
DQ 90 Day Sex Guarantee topic: sex; 90 days of dialogue questions all 90day - - P Zimmerman 174
DQ Dirty 33 topic: sex; 33 days of dialogue questions to be done in sequential order all 33day - - P - 173
DQ Self topic: self; being open about & sharing myself through dialogue all - - - P - 171
DQ Couple Relationship topic: couple relationship all - - - P - 154
DQ Dialogue topic: dialoguing & attitudes about it all - - - P - 156
DQ 90 Dialogue Questions good right after w/e; explains abbrev. like HDIF, etc. all 90day - - P LME-013 152
DQ Alternate Dialogue Questions good right after w/e; explains abbrev. like HDIF, etc. all - - - P LME-014 153
DQ Dialogue Questions topic: scripture dialogue & general all - - New Test. P LME-015 170
DQ General topic: general; several lists of 10 or more all - - - P - 159
Talk Confidence in Our Dialogue dialogue deepening; positive; make relationship alive; includes technique of dialogue comm 1 hr 3 Heb.4:14-16 P - 409
Misc Oh God, Help! It's Our First Time to Present a Talk preparing a presentation; get ready, get set, grow comm - - - P PER 01, 6/81 341
Talk Gift of Daily Dialogue dialogue attitudes, awareness of & overcoming roadblocks to unity comm 1 hr 1 John1:16-18 P PER 09, 6/81 408
Misc Anyone Can Write preparing a presentation community - - - P PWR 86-4 340
D Question Is . . . choosing meaningful dialogue questions; 7 day series; see also Dialogue for Life all - - - P PER 04, 6/81 103
Talk Go Ahead - I'm Listening!!! listening - pitfalls, active community 1 hr 2 - P PWR 85-4 428
Talk Community Talk community involvement opportunities within local area community 20min 1 - P PER 10, 6/81 404
Talk New Beginnings empty nest; making adjustments & associated fears community 1 hr 1 1Peter 3:1-7 P PWR 87-10 416
Talk No Trespassing married singles, privacy, hinders couple relationship community 1 hr 1 Phil.2:1-4 P PER 08, 6/81 435
Talk Reaching Out to Each Other by Accepting Our Feelings feelings just are; rejecting, tolerating, accepting feelings comm 1 hr 1 Eph.3:14-21 P PWR 83-06 417
Talk Lovable Person Behind My Masks self; masks; God does not make junk; see our unique goodness; animal exercise - comparison; revised from I'm Lovable - Knowing Myself & My Goodness comm 2 hrs 1 - P PER 03, 6/81 456
Talk To Be or Not To Be self; masks; finding ours; teaching talk about common masks community - 3 - D PWR 85-8 455
Talk Discovery Through Feelings feelings; recognizing, describing, struggling with community 1 hr 1 Luke11:33-36 P PWR 83-05 419
Talk Dialogue Workshop dialogue workshop; example of typical mistakes; feeling descriptions; effects of & cure for garbage dumping comm 1.5 hr 3 - P - 410
Talk Discovering Needs needs signalled by feelings; needs/wants; love, self-worth, belonging, autonomy, identified through dialogue comm 1 hr 2 - P PWR 84-1 440
Talk Reflections self; who I am, what I am about; how we act & react to specific situations, how this affects our relationship comm 1 hr 1 Gen.1:26-27 P PWR 87-08 457
D Deeper Dialogue dialogue technique - awareness, discernment, responsibility, for deeper dialogue; running after love or self-worth all - - - P - 107
Talk Unity - Marriage in God's Plan Marriage in GodÕs plan is unity - in & ouside of dialogue time community 1.5 hr 3 Eccl.4:9-12 P - 434
Talk What's the Point? conflict resolution through understanding needs & concentrating on each other comm 1 hr 2 - P PWR 86-5 405
Talk Your Will, Oh Lord . . . God is in control; our love, acceptance, forgiveness in God's image comm 1 hr 3 Acts11:1-17 P PWR 86-1 420
Talk Beginning Today married singles; romance - disillusionment - joy; look backward & forward comm 1 hr 1 Phil.2:1-5 P CTBF 90 win 438
Talk Spiral Outline for Lent living according to Christ's example, learning from His death community 1 hr 2 - P - 432
Talk Can We Talk . . . ? communication; what we avoid talking about community 1 hr 2 - P PWR 86-2 403
Talk I'm a Good Guy / Gal self; accepting compliments; see our unique goodness community 1 hr 1 Matt.22:39-40 P PER 05, 6/81 449
Talk I Need to Hold Your Hand openness; giving & receiving community 1 hr 1 Luke11:23 P PER 13, 6/81 441
Talk Life is a Puzzle parenting community 1 hr 1 Eph.6:1-4 P PWR 87-11 443
Talk How We Train Our Kids to be Married married singles; how our kids see us, what we want for them community 1 hr 1 - P PWR 83-08 437
D Family Dialogue family dialogue guidelines & questions - 9 steps family - - - P PWR 83-12 111
DQ Family Dialogue topic: family dialogue family - - - P 158
Talk Giving - a Beautiful Gift of Love sharing our commitment; love grows through being shared community 1 hr 1 John15: 12 P PWR 85-2 461
Talk Gift of Listening listening is a decision; Thanksgiving community 1 hr 1 1Cor1: 4-9 P PWR 83-03 429
Talk Gift of Generosity self; generosity in giving, receiving, sharing, listening, being open; parable of sower comm 1 hr 1 John12:24 P PER 12, 6/81 452
Talk Leisure leisure time - our attitudes, how use affects our relationship community 1 hr 1 Ecc.3:12-13 P PER 11, 6/81 427
Talk Do You Hear What I Hear? listening; attitudes that affect it, success in it community 1 hr 1 Matt.13:16 P PER 07, 6/81 430
Talk Romance, Disillusionment, Joy of Dialogue dialogue; recognize times we enjoy dialogue, struggles with it, joy of seeing how worthwhile it is to relationship comm 1 hr 1 Phil.3:12-14 P PWR 83-03 412
Talk Deeper Dimension intimacy; suggestions to work on growing closer; lots of sharing questions included community 2 hrs+ 3 Ecc.4:9-12 P PWR 87-01 422
Talk Feelings and Dialogue feelings may not be shared except through dialogue; dialogue = channel for our love; & lots of sharing questions comm 2 hrs+ 3 1Cor.13:1-7 P PWR 87-03 418
Talk Gift of You self; gift of true self best gift to spouse; discover new qualities & grow through dialogue comm 2 hrs+ 3 1Cor.3:16-17 P PWR 87-04 453
Talk Going Deeper needs signalled by feelings, identified through dialogue; 4 basic needs discussed; see also "Discovering Needs" comm 1 hr 2 - P PWR 85-3 439
Talk Looking In self; discovering mask community 1 hr 2 - P PWR 85-1 450
Talk Green Monster jealousy; recognizing it, other feelings that result community 1 hr 1 - P PER 06, 6/81 424
Talk Fall of our Lives empty nest; aging; compares 4 seasons to life; making adjustments; plans for future; plus lots of sharing questions comm 2 hrs+ 3 Ecc.3:1-8 P PWR 87-05 415
Talk Beyond the Curtain death, aging; results of sharing feelings & needs community 2 hrs+ 1 Ecc.3:1-8 P PWR 87-09 407
Talk Prayer prayer life as couple; our image of God; lots of sharing questions community 2 hrs+ 3 Is.6:19 P PWR 87-02 445
Talk Memories self; family tree; childhood areas affecting present community 1 hr 3 Ez.34:11-16 P PWR 86-3 451
Talk Obstacles to a Great Marriage intimacy; why we settle for less; fighting community 1 hr 1 - P PWR 83-10 423
Talk Out on a Limb intimacy through risking to share fears, feelings, about communicating comm 2 hrs+ 1 1Cor.13:4-7 P PWR 87-06 421
Talk Reliving Sunday Morning: the 90/90 90/90 memories, sharing those feelings community 1 hr 1 - P PWR 83-09 401
Talk Gift to Celebrate sex - attitudes - explore, enhance, change, share community 1 hr 1 1Cor.7:1-5 P PWR 87-07 458
Talk Sexuality in a 24 hr Relationship sex - elements that bring closeness can bring us closer in other areas comm 1 hr 2 - P PWR 83-07 460
Talk Spiritual Divorce married singles; decision to love community 1 hr 1 1John2:15-17 P - 436
Talk State of Our Union couple relationship - where are we, where are we going & how community 1 hr 1 1Cor.13 P PER 14, 6/81 406
Talk Unity - It's Not Uniformity self; grow as a person to offer more to relationship; how mask hinders dialogue comm 1 hr 1 - P PWR 85-? 454
Talk Loveletters - Their Effect on our Daily Lives dialogue workshop; how loveletter can affect our relationship; insights into greater openness comm 1 hr 2 - P PWR 85-5 411
TS Time to Grow love circle; Barrington Bunny story is included; 1-Dialogue; 2-Encounter with Self - the Many Faces of Me; 3-Marriage; 4-Our First Community - Our Family; 5-Community - Barrington; 6-God Spirituality comm 6 wk, 2 hrs 2 Ps.23, 1Cor.13:4-8 P - 611
TS Bridges w/e follow-up - before renewal; 1-dialogue growth, feelings are neither right nor wrong, garbage dumping 2-loving discussion post dialogue, love is a decision; 3-family dialogue, scripture dialogue, love circle comm 3 wk, 2 hrs 2 - P PWR 84-3, Buss 621
TS 5 Part Spiral Series love circle; 1-Introduction (Everyday Hassles) - where we are, where we're going; 2-My Everyday Valentine - love is a decision; 3-Family Relatives - mask, God does not make junk; 4-God Spirituality - God's plan; 5-Open & Apostolic (Pass It On) - we are Ch comm 5 wk, 1 hr 2 - P PWR 83-01, Harvey 609
TS Love Spiral Six Love Circle (Beginning) - see also;1-self; 2-spouse; 3-ministering to others; 4-community; 5-stake in each other; 6-couple outreach; lots of open sharing comm 6 wk, 2 hrs+ 3 Acts 2:42-47, 1Cor.13:1-13 P - 603
TS In-Home Meetings for Newly Encountered Couples and Presenters w/e follow-up - before renewal; 1-Coupleness & Dialogue; 2-God Doesn't Make Junk, Love is a Decision; 3-Matrimonial Spirituality, Scripture Dialogue, Open & Apostolic Couple comm 3 wk, 2 hrs 1 John 15:11-17, 1Cor.13:1-13 P PWR 83-11 620
TS 4 Part Spiral Series love circle; 1-Beginning Today (married singles); 2-You + I = Intimacy (risk, confidence in dialogue); 3-Love Triangle: God, You and Me (God's plan is unity); 4-We Are Betrothed (look to future) comm 4 wk, 1 hr 2 Phil.2:1-5, Gen.2:20-24, 1John 4:7-11, Mark 12:28-33 P PWR 83-02 608
Talk Convention Talk Outlines, 1987 outlines, with suggested title choices & scriptures; subjects: death, dialogue, empty nest, family, God, God's plan = unity, love and romance, reaching out, parenting, self, sex, time all 1 hr 1 many P CTO 1-12 442
Misc Weekend Plus w/e for encountered couples; includes time schedule, talk outlines, P.R., general info. all w/e 3 - P Dist.IV 353
TS Post-Encounter Program (P.E.P.) w/e follow-up; 1-dialogue (WEDS, content); 2-masks (personal styles assessment); 3-married singles (fighting, love is a decision, The Wall); 4-GodÕs plan & our marriage (open & apostolic couple) comm 4 wk, 1 hr 2 - P - 622
TS Prayer Series prayer; includes Òhow toÕsÓ; 1-private prayer; 2-couple prayer (& scripture dialogue); 3-family prayer (& family dialogue); 4 - community prayer (includes many scripture ref. to prayer) comm 4 wk, 1.5hr 2 John 15:16; Matt.13:14-15; Matt.13:19-20, Matt10:32 P - 617
Misc Sex in the Marriage Relationship sex in the Christian marriage relationship (article) all - - Gen.2:23-24, Luke 6:38, 9:24 P - 349
Misc Marriage: That Troubled Institution article all - - - P Ludwig 303
Misc Rules for Sharing sharing - includes ground rules, sharing guides all - - - P - 350
Misc Encounter Evening Ideas community night - misc. suggestions - collages, banners (The Banner Over M.E. is Love), books, tapes comm - - - P - 309
Misc Encounter Evening Ideas community night - misc. suggestions - collages, banners (The Banner Over M.E. is Love), books, tapes comm - - - P - 309
Misc Minnie Remembers poem all - - - P Swanson 333
TS Walking with God Through Prayer prayer; 1-personal prayer; 2-couple prayer community 2 wk, 2 hr 2 John 15:16; John 14:23; Matt.13: 14-15 P WWME 616
Misc Praying Together as a Couple prayer - article all - - - P - 336
Misc If God Dared to Speak While IÕm Praying presentation for 2 to give; based on Lord's prayer; adapted from a church newsletter all - 4 - D Sager 342
Misc Art of Forgiveness forgiveness - article all - - - P - 317
Misc Your Relationship with Your Children family; suggestions for raising children; notes from a tape family - - - P Gallagher 316
TS Covenant Series love circle; 1-Seeing Our Goodness (Encounter with Self); 2-Privacy - a Part of the Modern World's Plan; 3-Listening; 4-Openness to Receiving; 5-forgiveness & Reconciliation - a Key to Staying in Relationship; 6-Unity - Marriage in God's Plan; 7-Confidence comm 10 wk, 1.5 hr 3 Matt.22:39-40,Phil.2:1-4, Matt.13:16, Luke 11:23, Matt.18:21-22, Ecc.4:9-12, Heb.4:14-16, John 1:16-18, Ecc.3:12-13, Matt.6:14-15, Luke 23:34 P - 610
D Marriage - a Place to Be Me couple dialogue experience; includes Ken Medema words: "If This is Not a Place" all - - - P CTBF 87 spr 104
Misc Note Card for Bumper Sticker notes - "saw your M.E.sticker & wanted to say Hi", etc. all - - - P - 331
Misc Sometimes you have to reach a little... poster all - - - P - 335
Misc Benefits of Hugging hugging - live longer; good medicine; sandwich hug all - - - P CTBF 88 spr 319
Misc Scripture Fruitcake recipe using many scriptures all - - - P - 348
Misc One Ringers one ringer - what, when, why, for whom all - - - P - 332
W/E There's a New World Somewhere lyrics all - - - P LME-040 702
Invite Pastoral Couples' View of Lutheran Marriage Encounter booklet (24 p.) including letters from encountered Lutheran clergy couples sharing their LME experience clergy - - - P 1987 ILME Reunion 203
Invite M. E.: a Medium of Church Renewal booklet (13p.) describes how M.E. renewed churches, from pastors' view clergy - - - P Strickler 202
DQ Our Intimacy Grows...Through Dialogue topic: sex; intimacy; 42 days of dialogue reflections with questions; booklet all 42day - - P Trickey 175
Invite Inviting Manual inviting manual; guidelines, information talk, follow-up letters, clergy info. packets all - - - P A&P, 1995 210
TS Love Circle (Beginning)[revised '92] Love Spiral Six - see also; intro.; 1-Focus on Self; 2-Focus on Spouse; 3-Focus on Ministering to Others; 4-Focus on Community; 5-Focus on our Joy of Sharing; 6-Focus on Outreach; lots of open sharing q.; dialogue q. include scripture dialogue comm 6 wk, 2 hrs+ 3 1Cor.13:1-13 P Moren, revisors 615
TS Love Circle Pak love circle - what is it; guidelines for starting; song sheets; 1 - Romance; 2 - Disillusionment in Dialogue; 3 - Hope; 4 - review of WEDS comm 4 wk, 2 hrs+ 2 Gen.1:27, Eph.5:31 P - 604
Misc Love Spiral love spiral - acronym, introduction to, purpose, basic format of group sessions leadercomm - - - P - 325
Misc Spiral Leader Workshops love spiral leader training presentations; 1 - 4 Elements of an Alive Relationship; 2 - All Time Best Seller; 3 - How to Recruit; 4 - Thank You . . . YouÕre Welcome; 5 - Simple as 1,2,3,4 leadercomm 5 wks 3 - P Episc. M.E. 327
Misc Spiral Leader's Handbook love spiral - leader's guide; complete how-to leadercomm - - - P Episc. M.E. 326
Talk Possessions possessions; short, slim outline community 1 hr 1 - P - 444
Misc I.M.A.G.E. Meetings Love Spiral (see also); what, who, basic format info. comm - - - P - 324
DQ Scripture Dialogue topic: scripture dialogue all - - lots P - 169
TS Relationships - a Five Part Spiral Series (1994) love circle; relationships; Jan.- Self; Feb.- Couple Relationship; Mar.- Lent (Relationship to God); Apr.- Parenting; May - Monday Relationships (changed perspectives) comm 1 hr 2 Matt.4:1-11, Prov.22:6 P Harvey 614
TS Journey of Love love circle; 1 - Recalling the Experience of the Weekend; 2 -Communication - the Joys and Struggles of Dialogue; 3 - Our Behavior Patterns & Effects on Our Relationships; 4 - Living Actively or Living Passively - a Choice: God's Plan or World's Plan; 5 - comm 6 wk, 1.5 hr 3 - D 29737 607
DQ Giving topic: giving, generosity all - - - P - 160
Misc Our Marriage Crest crest (blank) split into 6, draw various aspects of marriage all - - - P newsletter, Beginning Today 311
Invite Poster, Trifold holder poster - yellow, folds to hold brochures; "Give Yourselves a Lasting Gift!" all - - - P - 214
Invite Poster, Marriage is a Journey poster - heavy P; black & white all - - - P - 213
Misc Marriage Encounter Family Tree family tree; WWME & LME family relationships; includes vision, mission, organization, non-negotiables, outline revision process all - - - P 1994 315
Invite Recruiting Ideas - WWME includes parish contact program, nat'l recruiting task force - Gable group; "stake w/e"; publicity; others all - - - P WWME Ô90-92 205
Invite Recruiting Tips bulletin inserts & public media included all - - - P PWR 83-14, Harvey 204
Invite M.E. Gets Misplaced Priorities Back on Track article (newspaper)- 3/30/93, Sioux Falls Argus Leader all - - - P McManus 201
Invite Information Talks information talk samples - Baptist, Episcopal all - - - P - 207
Misc Ideas for Running a Rap rap, coffee night set-up leader - - - P WWME 344
Invite Presentation to Pastors information talk geared especially to pastors clergy - - - P - 206
Misc World Marriage Day World Marriage Day information all - - - P Harvey et al 355
Misc Engaged Encounter Engaged Encounter info.; how to start EE in your area all - - - P - 313
TS WEDS Series dialogue technique - WEDS reviewed in 4 parts comm 4 wk, 1 hr 2 - P PWR 84-2 602
Misc Weekend Study Project evaluating w/e; includes guidebook, team guidelines, time/task flow, etc. leader - - - P WWME 314
Misc Workshop Handbook (LME) workshop handbook - workshop couples guide; helpful hints, guidelines, corrections, w/e prep.; 1992 leader - - - P Harvey 354
Misc Father Gallagher . . . Ten Years Later talk transcript, edited, from 1987 Denver Family Reunion all - - - P CTBF 87 fall 351
W/E Marriage Encounter for the Deaf translated w/e for the deaf; includes pre-w/e prep., revised talk outlines, post-w/e follow-up; 196pp. leader w/e - - P WWME 703
Talk Weekend Traveler journey through our marriage - journey, test, challenge community 1 hr 4 - P - 425
Misc Other Weekend Experiences includes Teens Encounter Christ, Beginning Experience (widows, etc.), Havurah (Jewish Community Night); brochures, info. sheets all - - - P - 320
TS Reach Out and Touch love circle; getting in touch with Jesus, through members of His Body; includes series leader manual; 1 - An Encountering Couple; 2 - A Fellow Traveler Encounters Others; 3 - An Open-Ended Story; 4 - Paul's Love Letter comm 4 wk, 2 hr+ 4 Acts, Gal. P Episc.M.E. 613
TS Presbyterian Deeper Exploration love circle series outlines (13) about new beginnings, God, possessions, death, sex; 200pp comm 1 hr 1 many P Presby M.E. 606
Talk Self-Esteem self - esteem; look at where yours is & why; what we can do to improve it; slim outline comm 1 hr 1 Is.6:4-8 P - 447
Talk Sacramental Growth Through Sex sex - attitudes, awareness, holiness; slim outline community 1 hr 1 - P Hengst 459
Talk Being Missionaries marriage = missionary vocation; tools - faith, hope, love; slim outline comm 1 hr 1 - P Hengst 433
Talk Barriers to Communication communication barriers - on w/e, now, overcoming them; slim outline comm 1 hr 1 - P Hengst 402
Talk Our Changing World - or Is It? dream of M.E. - past, present, future; slim outline community 1 hr 1 - P Hengst 413
TS Love Circle Series (Presbyterian) love circle; feelings not thoughts stressed in all parts; 1 - self (dialogue examples, feeling word sheets); 2 - we; 3 - God; 4 - community; 5 - sharing self; 6 - reaching out (with candle ceremony and/or hand meditation comm 6 wk, 2 hr+ 4 - P Presby.M.E. 612
Misc Community Handbook community handbook, revised 1990; includes by-laws, community org., pre-w/e info, w/e support, post-w/e, glossary, resources leader - - - P LME 1990 308
TS Bridging (1990) w/e follow-up - after renewal; teachy but lots of sharing; 1 - communication (feelings, needs); 2 - deepening our dialogue (running after love, self-worth); 3 - choosing the way we live; 4 - living our values comm 4 wk, 2 hr 3 - P - 619
Talk Joys and Growth of Writing Talks writing talks - why, growth, excitement, disillusionment, joy leader <1 hr 1 - P - 462
TS Rookie Circle love circle for newly encountered; lots of open sharing;1 - self; 2 - coupleness; 3 - God; 4 - community; 5 - sharing of self; 6 - apostolate comm 6 wk, 1.5hr 3 Matt.7:7-8; Matt. 11:28-29; 1John 4:7-8; Acts 2:42-47; 1Cor.13:1-8,13; P - 605
Misc Goals in Married Life goals for marriage - how to set, suggestions all - - Is.43:7, Col.3:14-17 P - 318
Talk To See Ourselves More Clearly self; accepting compliments community 1 hr 1 Rom.15:1-6 P PWR 83-04 448
Misc Real People article all - - John 15:12-13 P Brandt 304
Misc Do You Love the Son? article all - - - P - 302
Misc Who Are You? lyrics; empty nest all - - - P Chapman 328
Misc Day 39 and Counting presentation for 2 to give; God & Martha (Noah's wife); growing with change all 20 min 4 - P Madden 343
Misc Hand Meditation reading; hand meditation all - - - P - 347
Misc Road of Life reading; similar to Footprints, on tandem bike all - - - P Manhard 345
Talk Openness to God's Plan (Parable of the Sower) listening; openness in dialogue; feelings - deeper sharing; parable of sower comm 1 hr 2 Matt.13 P - 431
Misc Different Kind of Love Triangle portrait of love = passion + intimacy + commitment; article all - - - P Golin 7/87 334
Misc Bring Fun Back to Your Marriage intimate play; article all - - - P ReaderÕs Digest, 1/89 321
Talk Joy joy; what is it, obstacles, increase awareness community 1 hr 1 Col.3:12-17 P - 426
Misc Beatitudes for Married Couples reading; beatitudes as intro. to study of Christian marriage relationships all - - many P - 346
Misc You Make Me Feel Brand New dialogue experiences of Robb & Esther Smith; article all - - - P CTBF 87 win 312
Misc Cared For People Care for People article; clarifying what it means to be Family all - - - P CTBF 87 spr 305
Misc Coffee, Tea & M.E. leader's guide for lovers called to change the world leader - - - P CTBF 87 win 322
Misc What's a Need? needs (article); describes basic needs, comp. to feelings, red & green light feelings all - - - P CTBF 88 spr 330
Misc Prayer Couple Guidelines (old) prayer couple - samples, old schedules & talks leader - - - P PER 15, 6/81 others 338
Misc Prayer Couple Guidelines - Prayers prayer couple - schedule of talk times & prayer for each leader - - - D 33603 339
Misc Prayer Couple Guidelines - Re-live the Weekend prayer couple - clocks; dialogue q., time & key for talks leader - - - P 33603 337
Invite Meaning in Marriage transcript of speech - assisting couples to build meaning in marriage clergy - - - P Sager 216
Invite Inviting Handbook - Michigan inviting - who, why, how; bulletin inserts, gift certificate, poster, publicity all - - - P Grupe 208
D Intro. to Scripture Dialogue - misc. scripture dialogue basics, step-by-step; starter passages all - - lots P - 116
Misc Listening listening - acronym - single sheet description all - - - P Barker 323
D C'ing Your Way Through Daily Dialogue dialogue encouragement for those not dialoguing all - - - P Barker 105
D Dialogue - The Gift of Love dialogue helps; feelings - describe, not explain all - - - P Barker 106
Misc By-Laws of Call to Be Family dba I.L.M.E. by-laws, revised 11/94 all - - - P - 306
Talk Dreams, Visions, & Memories - a Voice Calling to Renew dream; Schleiers' amazing story! comm - - - P Schleier 414
Misc Discovery Weekend w/e for encountered couples; handbook for hosting community; includes mechanics, time schedule, etc. comm w/e - - P Grupe 352
Misc Weekend Support Team Kickoff community - recruiting for loving tasks; mentality, preliminary presentation outline comm - - Ex.18:13-27; Luke 10:1-20; Acts 6:1-7 P Heaney (A&P) 307
Invite We Got Two - Did You? (Jumpstart) inviting presentation to jumpstart community comm - - Rom.16:3-4; Matt.18:20; Gen.2:24; Hag.1:13 P Arnold (A&P) 211
Misc All-Clergy W/E all-clergy w/e report, United Methodist, Jan.96; includes planning, letters leader - - - P ME-UM via A&P 3/96 301
TS Jumpstart - Dream, Covenant, Commission community revitalization presentations; 1 - dream vs. vision; 2 - covenant relationship with God; 3 - commission (why do we do the things we do?), ends with commission service comm 3 wk, 1.5 hr 3 - D Fell (A&P) 601
Misc Jumpstart - Pardon Me, Do You Have Any Battery Cables? community revitalization - instruction manual, including 1 year timeline; self-evaluation comm - - - P Barker, Slusher (A&P) 310
Invite Churches: Wedding Factories or Marriage Savers? marriage prep.& divorce prevention through E.E. & M.E.; article from Nat'l & Internat'l Religion Report clergy all - - - P McManus 212
Talk Aldonza & the Beast self - esteem; compares Aldonza's transformation into Dulcinea with the beast in ÒBeauty & BeastÓ story comm 1 hr 2 - P WWME Matrimony Magazine summ96 446
Invite You Spoke of a Dream... inviting help - brochure for newly encountered; reasons to invite, who, suggestions, excuses, handling rejection all - - - P Meth.M.E. 209
Misc Retrouvaille: You Can Save Your Marriage marriage saver for those in trouble; brochure all - - - P WWME Cleveland 329
D Tired of of "Mad, Sad and Glad"? feelings descriptions all - - - P WWME Matrimony Magazine summ96 113
Invite Romantic Dinner romantic dinner packet - includes how to organize, guidelines, publicity, table q., the talk all 2 hr - - P WWME via Schondel 215
TS Bridge (WW) w/e follow-up - after renewal; packet includes general description, mentality, specifics; 1 - effects of the w/e; 2 - communication (feelings, deeper dialogue); 3 - situation dialogue 4 - couple for society comm 4wk, 2.5hr 3 Eph.4:22-32, 1John 3:18, 1John 4:12, John 15:12-16 P WWME via Schondel 618

Supplemental Resources

Talk Light One Candle Post Weekend Resource Handbook part IV, file 11; candle ceremony, including DQ and open sharing comm - 4 - D Guilfoile 7/97 463
D Designating Feelings feelings cannot be negative/positive, only actions; lists good alternative choices for labeling feelings all - 4 - D O&B Tollefson 122
Talk Responsible Servant community leaders as servants - vision, struggles, successes, early training; survey of behavior patterns -- characterized as positive / negative, mild / agressive leader 1 hr 3 Mark 10:42-45 D Dorn 1996 470
Misc Relationship Health Check for Couples survey for couples - springboard for dialogue questions comm - 4 - D Dorn 1996 361
Talk Angels Rejoicing - Where Do We Go from Here (Jumpstart) community of angels doing loving tasks; compared with role of angels in GodÕs plan; turn M.E. dream into reality comm 1 hr 3 Matt.1:18-25 D Afman (A&P) 467
Misc Resource Center Catalogue (WWME) index of resources available - Worldwide M.E. leader - - - P WWME 1997 360
Talk How Is Your Love Life? inventory love life with family, neighbors, friends comm 45 min 4 I Cor. 13: 4-7 D Dorn 1997 468
D Why Do We Dialogue? dialogue - benefits of commitment explained all - 4 - D Dorn 121
TS Presentation Guide (WWME) developmental workbook for sharing groups, including list of suitable topics for presentations plus 30 presentation outlines; 81 pp. comm 1 hr each 2 - P WWME, Dallas comm. 627
Talk Living GodÕs Plan unity = GodÕs plan; told through Dave & Ada DornÕs eyes! comm 1 hr 3 - D Dorn 1996 469
Talk We Got Two - Did You? (Jumpstart) inviting presentation to jumpstart community; compare Priscilla / Aquila; we are called to invite; includes commitment cards comm 1 hr 3 Rom.16:3-4; Matt.18:20; Gen.2:24;Hag.1:13 P Arnold (A&P) 465
D Gift of Daily Dialogue dialogue techniques description; describing feelings; uses WEDS steps all - 4 - D Dorn 119
Misc Post Weekend Resource Manual post weekend planning & shepherding before w/e, renewal & community activities, rookie follow-up, index & sample resources; 87 pp. leader - 4 - D Bridge / Guilfoile 7/97 359
Misc Post Weekend Activities Post Weekend Resource Handbook part II, file 6; community building activities including renewal ideas, romance dinner all - 4 - D Bridge / Guilfoile 7/97 356
TS Planning for the Future - Retirement Interfaith Day of renewal (see also Resource #623), track 3 includes 4 presentations: 1-job & effects of not performing it; 2-fears; 3-expectations, dreams, needs; 4-continuing journey comm 45 min each 1 - D Dorn 1997 626
TS Interfaith Day of Renewal mentality & outlines for 4 presentations in each of 3 tracks, including Resource #624 role of the Christian family in the 90Õs, Resource #625 empty nest, & Resource #626 planning for the future - retirement comm 45 min each 1 I Cor.12:12-27, II Cor. 3: 14-18, Col.1: 15-18 D Dorn 1997 623
Talk Commitment (Jumpstart) commitment before, during & after our w/e -- to God & our M.E. community with inviting as focus comm 1 hr 3 - P Slusher (A&P 466
TS Role of the Christian Family in the 90Õs Interfaith Day of Renewal (see also Resource #623), track 1; includes 4 presentations: 1-encounter with self, 2-as a couple, 3-Christian family values, 4-our community / church comm 45 min each 1 I Cor.12:12-27, II Cor. 3: 14-18, Col.1: 15-18 D Dorn 1997 624
Talk Bridging Presentation Post Weekend Resource Handbook part IV, file 18; one talk to bridge between w/e and love circle; includes poem ÒAnd the Lord Said GoÓ and songs ÒHere I Am, LordÓ and ÒFreely, FreelyÓ comm - 4 - D Guilfoile 7/97 464
Misc. Post Weekend Follow Up Letters Post Weekend Resource Handbook part III, file 7; 12 sample letters, sent monthly to newly-encountered leader - 4 - D Bridge / Guilfoile 7/97 357
Misc Job vs. Ministry poem, helps pinpoint why we do what we do all - 4 - D Dahlquist 362
Misc Recommitment Process recommitment process for area boards (yearly) -- samples from Dallas/Fort Worth area including letters, survey leader - 3 - P DFW area, Jackson 358
D Handy Dandy Question Making Kit dialogue - 10 questions to ask in each of 12 areas, plus 5 reflections to use for loving discussion all - 4 - D Dorn 120
D Dialogue Helps dialogue - questions to ask to make dialogue richer all - 4 - D Dorn 118
TS Episcopal Spiral LeaderÕs Handbook spiral leaderÕs responsibilities, how to start spiral, resource materials for use in presentations, outlines for 54 presentations; 200 pp. leader - 3 - P EME (Hunt) 1996 628
Invite Venus vs. Mars inviting skit in 3 scenes; from 1997 ILME Reunion comm 30 min 4 - P Carver 7/97 217
TS Empty Nest Interfaith Day of Renewal (see also Resource #623), track 2; includes 4 presentations comm 45 min each 1 - D Dorn 1997 625
Invite Inviting & Publicity Resource Book (WWME) index of inviting & publicity resources available from WWME leader - 4 - P WWME 1997 Waguespack 218

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